The structure of civil society determines the development of political parties. The emerging of democratic parties in post-authoritarian countries depend on the flexibility of civil society in changing the form of associations during the period of authoritarian. It also depend on the role of military. This paper focuses on the developing democracy in South-East Asian countries, especially on the commitment to democracy of the leaders of civil society and military behind the form of political parties in Indonesia, Malaysia, and the Philippines. The conclusion will show that the more morally dedicated to democracy of the leaders has consequence to the more chance the nations to be democratic.